Coping with the Baby Blues (aka post partum)

Postpartum is a challenging time for new mothers where they experience various physical and emotional changes. The hormonal changes, sleep deprivation, and stress of caring for a newborn can lead to postpartum depression, anxiety, and other mood disorders. The stigma around postpartum can make it worse, as new mothers may feel embarrassed to seek help for their struggles. The reality though is that it's very common for women to go through this and its absolutely nothing to be ashamed of! Something we all seem to forget is that mothers are people too, and it's ok to not be ok.

There are several things moms can do to help ease their postpartum symptoms. One of the most important things is to prioritize self-care. I know that seems almost laughable when you have a new and very demanding newborn, but making yourself do even small things for yourself while the baby naps can be helpful. This means sleeping when baby sleeps, eating a healthy diet, and engaging in physical activity when possible- even if that's just going on a stroller walk with baby. Moms should also seek support from their partners, family, and friends. Talking to a therapist or joining a support group can also be helpful. It's important for moms to remember that it's okay to ask for help and to take things one day at a time. Despite your worries or embarrassment about the topic, remember that this is normal and common for new moms. When I had my last baby, I would literally burst into tears without any prompting… for weeks! I could be happy and would just start sobbing. The hormones make everything feel so much more intense. It does get better, but the best news is that you don’t have to do it alone so don’t be afraid to be honest about how you’re feeling.

Support from family, friends, and partners can make a significant difference in helping new mothers through their postpartum period. One of the most important things partners can do is to be understanding and empathetic. They can offer emotional support, help with household chores and childcare, and encourage mothers to take breaks and rest when needed. Mom, don’t feel bad to tell Dad you need help! He is a parent too, so he should share in responsibility. It doesn’t make you a bad mom if you can’t do everything by yourself all the time. Let your partner help- even if you have to ask.

Family members and friends can also help by offering practical support, such as bringing meals, running errands, or watching the baby so the mother can take a break. Remember that this can be a chaotic time for new parents, so it’s normal if the house is a little messy or mom isn’t well manicured. Come with open arms and without the unsolicited advice or judgement. Sometimes, postpartum can be overwhelming, and it can be hard to ask for help. Feel honored if a new mom calls on you for assistance during this vulnerable time.

In conclusion, postpartum can be a challenging time for new mothers. The hormonal changes, sleep deprivation, and stress of caring for a newborn can lead to postpartum depression and anxiety. However, support from family, friends, and partners can make a significant difference in helping new mothers through their postpartum period. Partners can be understanding and empathetic, while family and friends can offer practical support and encourage mothers to ask for help. Let's work together to remove the stigma around postpartum and support new mothers through this challenging time. And Momma, you're doing a great job- even if you feel like you aren't! You're exactly the mom that your baby needs you to be. Make sure you take care of yourself, too!